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Hi! I'm Sabrina, a 25 year old wanderer. This where I write about things that are relevant to my life whether big or small, mostly about my feelings towards things. All things posted are strictly my take on things unless written otherwise. Happy reading!
Showing posts with label life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label life. Show all posts

Monday, October 2, 2017

I'm Getting Married!

in exactly 54 days... you do the math.

OMG i can't believe it I'm actually getting wedding jitters right now. And its too late to change my mind (i mean even from the start its already too late cause yknow theres feelings involved LOL) but like yeah, this is really happening. It's real life guys. And for the past 6 months that I've been working (yes it has been that long) I've been doing mostly mundane stuff, nothing out of the ordinary, basic 830 AM to 530 PM jobs, 5 day work week and its really stressing me out sometimes. I'll tell you why in a bit. Lets get back to the part where I'm excited for my WEDDING YAY!

So basically i haven't really been updating anywhere or anyone about the details of my wedding preparation. I just have an excel sheet, some notes on my phone of all the never ending list of things to do and that's just it. I'll have a monthly update with the fiance on our progress just to make sure we have everything listed, and nothing gets left out you know. The last thing you wanna have on your wedding day is to go - wait where my ___? oh no. nope. not in my wedding preparation book. And plus, i have a suuuper organised mother, who takes care of things down to a T, yes i mean that. But then that also means less work for me cause she basically does half of the planning for me and I well, have just to go along with it. It is kinda exhausting but I stuck with it cause its gonna be my wedding anyway. Not that I didn't have any fun planning my wedding hehe but it was less stressful than I thought it would be. I don't really have any bridezilla moments (yet?) and the only time we're like even remotely close to fighting is just things relating to money. It really is a big issue since my mom is paying for like a huge chunk of my wedding. My power of authority only covers things that I'm paying for which includes gifts for the hubs, my solemnization dais and other teeny weeny stuffs. Lol. Theres more of stuffs that looks like I'm paying from my own pocket, but its also the same pocket that my mum fills in every month so... you get the idea. But really, it's not all bad, because the way i think of it is like the ceremony is hers to begin with. It's to celebrate me getting married as her daughter, not the other way around. I'm just happy that she's finally letting me go on an unsupervised trip with some guy she just knew after all of this is over. LOL

So yes, i'm basically super stoked that i finally get to marry the man of my dreams and head on to the next adventure of my life. Apart from that, remember all the things i said about being kinda stressed about work at times? Well the wedding plans has definitely helped with some of the stress, but I've really been thinking of venturing out to other ways to fill my time rather than aimlessly scrolling through social media just as a mean of "resting". I'm even thinking of starting my own YouTube channel! Wait for it, you might not know whats there to come. I really feel tired living this way, it really feels like i'm not living my best life. But I don't really have anything to complain about since I don't have to pay for rent and transportation but thats just how I feel. Hope that you guys don't take this the wrong way. Hehe

Well its almost 530PM (lol i'm blogging at work since i completed mine for the day) and its time to head home. Wish me luck guys! Until next time my dear readers, I love you all xxx

Alhana

Tuesday, December 20, 2016

Why You Can't Afford to Be Lazy

You can't really afford to be lazy, not even one second of our life but we do it anyway, right? Guilty right here *raises hand up*

Ok but first, let me just say this, its been almost a year since my last post and a lot of things happened. Well it has been a year... Lol and the presence of social medias led to people letting things out there instead of typing it all away here but why not? People are still blogging you know. && deep down i still have my soft spot for my blog right here. But so far so good alhamdulillah I am done with my masters, ready to jump in the working life bandwagon anytime soon! Hehe but yes since i have some free time here, and having these free time makes me realise that you don't actually have any time at all... because there's just so much things to doooooo so ok let me start.

As i was saying, we as humans can't afford to be lazy. Especially if you're a girl. Well that doesn't mean that if you're a guy you can be lazy, just that you can be a bit lazier than us girls. Why, you ask? Bcs we apparently have dozens more things to do than you! hahaha i sound a bit feminist there but okay okay maybe i don't really know the world of guys and their fantasy football. But here's some of the reasons why we need to be up on our feet almost 24 hours in our day (both men and women okay);

1) wake up: shower and for most of us its at the crack of dawn when we're just about to enter the sweet sweet world of dreams, sigh... another day in paradise! Off to work. before that, BREAKFAST! no breakfast for the lazy people! and its so easy to get carried away and just grabbing the nasi lemak when you're supposed to be watching your calories... ehem. Which is still nonexistent if you're lazy to go out and search for the nasi lemak but please, don't skip your breakfast. Have at least a banana. Your body will thank you. Don't get me started on the getting ready time. We girls take forever to get ready. For some girls who are confident enough to go out without makeup, I salute you *claps*. But for us other girls, we need the extra time to prep ourselves, iron our clothes, make sure that it is matching with the rest of our attire and it takes a lot of energy and you definitely cannot be lazy to look nice. Hello, you keep looking at all those girls and celebrities on Instagram and be like "aww they're so pretty" so why can't you just spend some extra minutes on yourself so that you can look as pretty as them too? Well for guys, you just have your hair. BUT I know some guys who take way longer than they should on their hair hahaha well if it makes you look good so what

2) if you're among the fortunate and don't have a 9 to 5 job, well you can have a few extra minutes of sleep and then you gotta be up as well because who will prepare breakfast for the rest of your family? IT'S YOU! especially if you're married with kids. You will definitely have to wake up early and prepare the kids. They need a lot of your time. Man, having kids is no joke. But nothing beats #momlife am i right? lol if you're not a mom probably have to send your sisters and brothers to school or prepare breakfast for your parents and sibs who are working haha exhibit A right here (but i can go to sleep afterwards so yay me)

Moving on after breakfast, 3) Preparing for lunch. Fortunately nowadays, healthy food are easy to come by. There are lots of food deliveries out there that can bring you food straight to your work, so we can afford to be a bit lazy there, but if you think about it, we can't be lazy, thats why we have food delivered. If not we will probably go out and eat somewhere. Your job is too important or too busy to leave during lunch. But you obviously need to take a break and go pray and this is where it gets hard. Remember all your makeup that you put on this morning? Yes its coming off and you don't wanna look like a zombie after you pray so girl you gotta put it back on. Yes. So much effort. No time to be lazy here.

For the moms with kids, maybe you have a bit of time here where the kids will take a nap but that is when you can clean the house. You do not want to live in a house so dirty and dusty but you can't afford to hire a maid all the time! So chop chop, go and get the vacuum. And although you can say that it only takes like what 20-30 minutes (for one area of your house) but it is YOUR HOUSE. Obviously you want it clean so if you're the OCD type, you will definitely take more time than that. My mum always say do not do your work like a housemaid. What she means is, although the housemaids job is to clean the house, thats not her house. So she probably won't clean it as best as she could you know. Do you get what I mean? 

4) After work: dinner... and maybe exercise. This is the hard part. We can easily eat non-stop but when it comes to exercising, ugh. Y SO LAZY. But quoting Kendal Jenner in her 73 Questions interview, "this body doesn't do itself" so you need to move your lazy ass to the gym and work out.  If not, do it first thing when you get home. For the super goers, you can try waking up early to get a fresh start for your day! Atleast 30 minutes. Again, your body will thank you. I know its easier said than done, and i myself have problems sticking to my workout routine, but once you see results, you'll be thankful you ain't lazy. 

5) Finally home. Nope, you can't sleep yet. I know you feel like your every is hitting zero, and fast. Trust me , i've been there. MOVE YOUR LAZY ASS BODY. You need to remove your clothes and go shower. After all the work and exercise, you wanna sleep in that condition? Please don't. You will feel worse tomorrow so you need to shower and then do the laundry, and then if you're cooking at home, do the dishes, wipe the hob, and finally almost there, you have to clean up your face and brush your teeth and and floss it and be pretty so that you will look presentable for your husband at night LOL ok not really for him but you get the idea right? I mean who has all that time? sometimes i can barely take off my jeans and i'll be all Zzz already hahaha Not forgetting the Korean skin care regime for your face. 10. freaking. steps. I mean WOW no wonder their face are so flawless and pretty oh well a girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do 

think about it. being a girl, you have to take care of your body, your hair (even with hijab ok you need to look good for yourself, husband is optional :p), your face, your nails, your attire, your smell && everything including how you speak eat talk hahahahahaha but its super fun being a girl, you get to dress up and act girly teehee

PHEW

BUT THATS NOT ALL. these are just basics if you are living a normal life. Well, face it none of us are normal. Cause we got loads of other stuff to do. Like blogging, or some of you who read, or bake or do some extra odd jobs so you need to fill that extra hours with work too! And yes cleaning up the toilet as you go, throwing out the trash, piling up the clean dishes from yesterday, hanging up the clothes when its ready from the machine, preparing breakfast for tomorrow (so you finally can have something to eat in the morning), folding clothes from yesterday, planning what to wear tomorrow, buying groceries, paying the bills... and the list goes on and on and on. Not to mention if you have a big event coming up like a birthday party, a bachelorette party, an engagement, a wedding, you need to find time to plan all those! And your calendar, you need to get it sorted, make sure you get the dates right, whether or not you tally with your partner/spouse, keeping up with all the non work related unread emails. Man it's hard to be human. 

Enough ranting for now because i know by now you definitely get what i mean, right? Being unemployed for the time being gives me a whole new meaning of time. Once i start working, i know i will not have this much time anymore. So there will be extra pressure to do things i used to do when everybody else is working during the limited time that everybody else also have. Wait, i think the last sentence doesn't really make sense hmm

And blogger seriously need some emoji love right about now. I feel so lifeless typing without emoji lol ok bye now

pls pray that alhana gets a job soon thank you

xx alhana

Thursday, December 31, 2015

Looking Back

2015 was a great year. Well the ending might seem a little sad, but i'm exactly where i'm supposed to be right now. In the UK and technically all alone. Being alone is not bad, it's actually rewarding to the soul. But I'm not gonna touch on that. Bcs eventhough I am all alone, i'm contented with my life. And i'm perfectly happy with that. 

At the end of the year 2014, I said to myself, I'm going to make a project that'll last the whole year. A 365 days project, something that I can be disciplined in doing. And my project was to snap at least a photo a day and save it so that i can train myself to photograph things more. And i said why not, since the year 2015 is the year that a lot of significant things happened in my life. Alhamdulillah! 

To name a few: I graduated from UTP (5 awesome years), my sister got married and now carrying a little bundle of joy inside of her (isn't that just amazing mashaAllah!), I went to the UK to pursue my masters (it's the dream alhamdulillah), my convocation (one of the best days of my life), and i lost the person that i thought i was gonna spend the rest of my life with (sounds a bit dramatic eh?). Everything was planned except for the last one. Allah knows better and i believe that He is the best planner :)

Who did i try to lie when I thought that I was just gonna be gone for a year and when I come back next year it'll all be the same? That i'm just gonna pick up stuffs right where i left it? The moment I made the decision to come here I knew that things aren't gonna be the same anymore. And the events that came after I left proved it. It's been what, 3 and half months since I left home? (not counting the 5 brief days of me coming back) and I simply can't believe that i've been away from my mum for this long. OK i'm not one to always stay at home all this while but I usually go back every once a month or so during high school and my uni days. And to think that i'll still be away from her for the next 9 months or so? May Allah protect her and my family back home. It's going to be super hard, but i'll have to manage, like i always do :)

I once said to this person, one year is not that long. Just pretend that i'm going to take a year off off life. Easier said than done eh? The break up broke me. But it made me realise who i am as a person without having to have these labels on me. If anything, it helped me connect better with Allah, the one *person* (can i say that?) that is always with me no matter what. But i'm not giving up on love, obviously :p

Albeit all the things that has happened, I can say that it made me more matured and a family person. I have never been this clingy to my parents (esp my mum) before and i wonder why i havent been this way from the very start. It'll definitely save me from a whole lot of troubles but i don't regret anything that has happened. Coming here just may be the best decision i have ever made (for now :p). I get to leave my bubble and extend my circle of friends. It is truly a blessing just to be here, alhamdulillah for that. 

Well here's to 2016, the year where people will start asking questions and i can answer it with THIS YEAR! I can't wait for 2016, i'm sure it's gonna be amazing inshaAllah :)

Love, Alhana x

Friday, March 14, 2014

Long Enough

I came to realise one thing tonight.

As much as you hate it, this world is a big freaking huge cycle. Tonnes of people live and die every day, thousands repeat the same routine for days and weeks and sometimes the repetition duration can extend to years long. No matter how far you go, how low you fall, you'll always eventually arrive right back where you started. Maybe not in the same way you were, but still, you're there, again. 

This means that in life, you should know who you really are and what you stand with. Stick to it, because it will determine where you end up at the end.

And I, just arrived back to where i started.

alhana xx

Monday, July 8, 2013

Together

I now know that love and happiness must come together. One shall not exist without the other. I mean, you can't just hold on to love without happiness and you can't go on just feeling 'happy' about it, without love lurking around somewhere.  

Oh, life. 

Hanna xx

Wednesday, June 12, 2013

Of the late

I haven't been doing much thinking really. Well, being the thing that I used to do the most, it came as a shock to me on how I can actually not think too much.

Nope, not at all.
Not about life and its mysteries.
Not about feelings and its complications.
Not about formulas and its theories.

Only, I think the few are on my mind of course are this one competition and him. Mostly. Kinda bad if you ask me. I think i'm so occupied with stuffs until i've no time to actually cater to my needs. Not that it matters a lot if you ask me.

It's just good, not having to worry about something until you feel like your brain is about to wreck. But tests are coming up so it's kind of the same. Lol

I need to read. Bye!



Thursday, March 28, 2013

Strong Suit

I guess this is it. I am happy, i really am. I simply cannot ask for more. But evidently, with every happiness there's always something missing if you looked. It doesn't bother me much, wait, it does, but life had taught me enough to not dwell on sadness so much. Either it'll consume you, or you'll be consumed in it.

It's sad, really. Cause I never thought we'd be here. Like this. Both of us are happy now, but we lost each other in the process. I know, I can't help it but to blame myself cause I took the first step, but along the way, i wondered, why? Could this thing end differently? All that's left are questions without answers because my friend, time can't be turned back.

I always thought the reason is because we can't just be friends. Or maybe, we weren't friends in the first place. Or maybe something else that i'm just too blind to see. That's just sad. It's a shame really, cause we made such good partners. Not in that sense. Just by being bestfriends. But i guess that's not for us.

Thoughts while listening to Blind by Lifehouse.

Carry on, i'm perfectly fine; alhanasabrina :)